Nicola Perin loved rugby and fishing, but he loved God more.
Rugby, fishing, and school
Born February 2, 1998, to Adriana and Roberto Perin, Nicola was charismatic and energetic. He began playing rugby when he was 6 years old, later playing on the regional junior team in nearby Rovigo (northeastern Italy) as the scrum-half. His pas-sion for the game came from his father, and it was a factor of unity between the two of them, according to an interview by Ermanno Luzi with his parents in Italian magazine Medjugorje: The Presence of Mary Rugby wasn’t the only sport he enjoyed; he also loved to fish and engage in other outdoor activities. At the same time, he knew how to employ his energy in the class-room, where he excelled both as a student and as a friend, gain-ing the affection and respect of his teachers and peers. He was always ready to help others, and got along with kids of all ages.
In his diary, he wrote, "Living forgiveness, friendship, solidar-ity, and hospitality in the concrete reality of each day
gives me great joy." This and other texts came to light for the public in his biography in Italian, God’s Scrum-Half: Nicola and his incurable will to live by Cristian Bonaldi.
When he entered high school, he seemed to have a bright future before him. However, he started to tell his parents that he was suffering from fatigue and other symptoms, and they took him to the hospital for tests. In 2013, at the age of 15, he was diagnosed with leukemia.
Faith and courage in the face of suffering
He received the diagnosis with surprising strength of spirit. Soon, he had the spiritual guidance of Capuchin priest Gianluigi Pasquale, who became his confessor and spiritual director. Nicola had a special devotion to Padre Pio and to the Virgin Mary, although in an interview with Aleteia, his mother said that his favorite prayer was the Our Father: "That was his prayer," she told reporter Paola Belletti.
Nicola was patient and humble throughout all the tests, therapies, and poking and prodding involved in his treatment. "My son was always smiling. He was the one who carried us and the doctors, who sustained us," his mother told Luzi. He suffered with "great serenity and peace," never complaining, and often encouraging and playing with younger patients.
That’s not to say that suffering was easy for him. "We found some of Nicola’s writings in which he asked Mary and the Lord to forgive him for not managing to pray, or not having the strength to do so," his mother revealed to Luzi. Still, "he defi-nitely showed great faith and a very intense rapport with God."
Still thinking about others
Nicola wrote in his diary about how his illness helped him appreciate every day of his life. "I always imagined I’d grow old, that one day I’d have wrinkles and my hair would turn white. I’ve dreamed of building a family. That’s the way life is. Fragile, precious, and unpredictable. Every day that goes by isn’t our right, but a gift we’re given. I love my life, I’m happy, and I’m in debt to my loved ones. I don’t know how long I’ll live, so I don’t want to waste time being sad."
He kept his focus on others, apologizing to his parents for mak-ing them suffer on his behalf, and playing with younger children in the cancer ward to lift their spirits. His mother recounts how at one point Nicola was given an iPad; when he realized he was-n’t going to be around to use it, he said, "It doesn’t matter. That means we can sell it and help other children and other families."
Although he underwent all the treatment possible, including two bone marrow transplants (one from his father and one from his mother), he didn’t get better.
He was fully aware of the gravity of his situation, but he didn’t give up hope. He continued his high school studies in the hospi-tal, attending classes via Skype. After his first transplant, he even won a scholarship for his academic performance.
The sign of the cross: his last gesture
Eventually, he became too weak to carry on any activities. Two days before his death, he asked his father to help him make the sign of the cross: the last gesture he would ever make. He died on December 24, 2015, at the age of 17. "He offered up his suffering and accepted it to the very end," his mother said to reporter Luzi. Now, just a few years later, many people visit his grave to pray and ask for his intercession. "There are people who’ve received help; we’re collecting many testimonies, following the bishop’s indications; then we will present them to him next year," his mother says.
Matthew Green | Aug 25, 2019